She Loves Me, HE Loves Me Not

Once again it is the season of celebrating love and within the next 24 hours there will be a frenzy of last minute gifts being bought…..but have we learned anything as of yet? Anything about what valentine’s day really represents or better yet how to best show love to our partners, family or friends? …Well, it is not too late to find out.

The history of Valentine’s Day and the story of its patron saint has long been celebrated in the month of February. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. As an expression of love we share chocolate, special dinners, or cards with our loved ones, some may even take special trips, buy flowers or more…Whatever you do this valentine’s day be sure to do it with the receivers love language in mind….The five Love Languages as noted by Pastor Gary Chapman are as follows;.

Gifts – Tangible and intangible items that make you feel appreciated or noticed. Acts of Service – Doing something helpful or kind for your partner. Quality Time – Engaging in an activity together. Physical Touch – Physical expressions of love, whether sexual or more platonic, such as holding hands, a back scratch, a hug, a kiss, or intercourse. Words of Affirmation – These are verbal expressions of care and affection.

By understanding your own love language and that of the people you love, it helps to encourage a deeper connection in your relationships. To learn more about love languages there’s a 10- to 15-minute quiz (see resource link below) to help identify primary love languages. To make this quarantined valentine’s day even more fun for you and your special someones., I have included a few ideas for keeping with a safe and enjoyable V-Day….. Plan a special breakfast (in bed)…….write special notes and set them in various places around your home, why not make it into a valentine’s day scavenger hunt (see instructions below) …or..order in, have a movie night with all romantic comedies or better yet a family movie…..what ever you do, do it with purpose and with LOVE…………HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY to you…. #janenotdoe

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Valentine’s Day Scavenger Hunt: This Valentine’s Day scavenger hunt is super simple to setup. Simply create your own Valentine’s Day scavenger hunt riddles, hide them in the various locations around your home and give the hunter their first clue to start. Remember that each clue builds on the one before it…at the end of your clues or in the middle include small treats/inexpensive gifts to make the hunt more exciting.

1 John 4:7-12. Dear friends: let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Today Is Dance Wednesday….Let’s Dance

Research shows that like any other physical activity dancing releases a neurotransmitter, known as endorphins (the happy hormones)…Endorphins reduce stress and cause our bodies to feel calm, happy and optimistic. The best part about this method of stress relief is, you don’t need to know how to dance. Some other benefits of Dancing are as follows;

Dancing helps to increase physical and mental health.

Dancing lifts moods and eases anxiety.

Dancing increases aerobic power and strength.

Dancing builds social bonds.

On this Wednesday after Groundhog Day (by the way Punxsutawney Phil predicts six more weeks of winter), if you’re feeling the crunch of mid week tasks – Stop! Wait a minute! Take some time to dance! Turn on your favorite playlist and without thought just dance. Take a full 5/10 minutes to lose yourself in the world of music, dance and cardio.

Of course taking a dance break midday will go over better if you’re working from home. Unless you work in an office environment where dancing is allowed, in order to get your creative juices flowing. If that’s the case then have at it!.



Wrestling with “The Inner Me”

Happy Friday to all and to all a Happy Friday. If you found yourself in any area of life having been “too hard on yourself”, forgive you and give you another chance at being the best YOU that YOU can be. The following is a poem of sorts that I wrote some years back and today I felt compelled to add a few more lines to it. I suspect as I go on living this life and fighting these mind over matter battles, that this poem will continue to gain meaning and growth. There are so many things that I encounter and in each, fixed mindsets, fortified paradigms, stinking thinking, all come to wage their separate battles….. BUT I am determined and where persistence and determination resides = I shall THRIVE… ENJOY “Wrestling with The Inner Me”………

Sorting through the years of what went right and what went wrong, I was left wondering why it took so long. Well here comes the reality; before I could ever adorn my predestined crown, deliver this city or it’s failing town – I had to admit that “I am my own worst enemy”. Wrestling everyday, with what lies are told in the depth of “The Inner Me”.

Time and time again, overcome by my own fears. Portraying on the outside, what contradicts the layers of “The Inner Me”. For who can admit that they held court on themselves, and dared to come up with a guilty plea? But there it was, right there for all to see. The greatest bout of the century and both competitors were me.

Two steps forward; three steps back, a shuffle to the left and glide to the right, determined to win this fight. I regained my composure – barely able to see. Then it was inevitable; in my minds eye, of whom I might add, is now free. I heard a little voice say “‘wait that’s me”. It is me; it was me; it forever will be all because I am, my own worst enemy. ~written by janie

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